when i picked up addelyn at jess' today...she DID NOT want to leave. after many times of telling her to get her shoes and coat on, i finally had to carry her out crying. before it ended this way, i told her that we couldn't go to church to dinner if she didn't listen to me (our church has a wednesday night family meal- we eat together with friends and then after dinner she plays with her little buddies). well, she still didn't listen and the whole way home, she sobbed about wanting to go to dinner. mark was home when we got here and she asked him a couple times if we could go. she has been having "quiet time" and twice she has yelled down to ask if i have changed my mind. she even told me that "daddy said we could probably still go."
two learnings for me.....
1. best consequence ever. she NEVER cares about anything else if i take away privileges when she misbehaves. oh wait, except dessert. i think church dinner is in her top things to do right now. :) so hopefully we have a teachable moment here about listening to your mom!
2. i punished myself. grrrr. i now have to make dinner. DANG IT. can i take it back????? worst consequence ever. this whole consistency thing is killing me!
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Oh we always do this! Try to take away something he cares about when he doesn't listen and then it ends up biting us. I feel for you. Especially the making dinner part!
You sound just like me! But why do the consequences that they actually care about punish you too?! We will miss seeing you guys tonight!
You did good Kris!!! Keep it up!! Call for take-out pizza or Hy-Vee Chinese! Jane E.
This cracked me up... why is it that the best punishments frustrate the parents, too! :) Hope the evening turned out well for all of you!
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